If there is one constant when it comes to weddings, it’s that it’s full of constants. Whether getting married in the Caribbean or having a rustic wedding in Maine, there will always be guests who don’t RSVP, someone that gets way too drunk and some kind of last minute disaster, to name a few. As someone who has a front row seat to said disasters, I can sum 90% of them up in one word: flowers.

Flowers are the one aspect of weddings that you cannot plan the crap out of, no matter how hard you may try. When planning an event a year in advance, there are simply a few things that are out of your hands until the last minute. Flowers end up getting the brunt of the drama because as important as the food is, very few little girls envision how their filet will taste on their wedding day. Well, we are here to help make sure you don’t spend the morning of your wedding cutting calla lillies out of your bouquet (true story).


  1. Do your research and plan accordingly. Before you start picking out your flowers, find out what works with your month. I wanted peonies but was getting married in September, which is not a great time for them. Luckily, large garden roses were in season and look very similar. Find out what flowers are in season for your wedding and try to stick with those. It will save you money AND headaches.
  2. Choose a professional. I’m sure your friend is great at arranging flowers and your aunt has a wonderful garden. Those two things does not a florist make. It may be cheaper but I promise you it will not be easier and you may lose a friend in process. Leave it to the professionals and let your friends and family off the hook. Unless they insist, in which case….
  3. Be flexible.  There are plenty of options out there, you just have to be open minded. Just because you can’t have a certain flower doesn’t mean there isn’t something similar out there. As much as you want the bouquet in the magazine, it just may not work for you and that’s okay. It will just be one of the many things that won’t end up the way you pictured, so this is actually a great tip for pretty much everything.
  4. Use your voice. LOUDLY. Lilies that were a wonderful shade of blush in May when you visited the florist are now sitting on your counter in a bright purple hue even though you stated that you despise the color purple. While many times it’s out of the florist’s hands what color the flowers come in, if they are well aware that you will not accept something, they can work with you when they realize the color may not be what you want instead of dropping off a bouquet that you will hate. If there is something you are adamant about not having, give them a call a few days before just to go over everything.
  5. Choose a florist you love. I cannot stress the importance of this enough (in all your vendors, honestly). Pick someone whose work you adore. Stalk them out on Instagram, Facebook, Yelp, wherever they have an online presence. If you find a florist that does a great job, even if they encounter some hiccups with your order, they still should be able to come up with something you love.
Even flower girls can appreciate a good bouquet.

Even flower girls can appreciate a good bouquet.